Dear mom #3 What I learned about life from watching The Gilmore Girls.

Dear mom,
   I don't recall most of what I watched when you were around. Probably mostly cartoons. I remember some such as the Jetsons & the Flintstones. As I got older & started to live with my grandmother I really got into, "Full House." I guess dad wasn't into it & we never watched it when I was really young. That's besides the point. I think if you were here today I'd love to have a Gilmore Girls marathon with you.
     Here's why: The main relationship the show focuses on is about a woman named Lorelai Gilmore& her daughter Rory Gilmore. You & I were never quite as talkative & into making friends with everyone we met. We had pur own unique bond. You were a stay at home mom. As I am older now I can see the importance of you needing naps. I admit I often do that too. It takes a lot of energy raising a child & a lot of commitment.
     I think I enjoy the personalities of the two characters which makes the show entertaining as well as dramatic. I feel in love with the charisma of Lorelai Gilmore & wanted to exemplify her personality in a way but not exactly so I can still be myself.
     I asked myself many questions while watching the show. Questions such a: Would we have ever had a movie night as I got older & could appreciatemore than cartoons? Would we binge out on food & just talk about daily school things & so on? Would you still be married? Would you have always been a stay at home mom if you did? Would you have been over protective? Did your mom annoy you such as the grandmother Emily Gilmore did to Lorelai?
    I have a few concepts I took from the show. I like to make all sorts of friends. Granted I do not have a Skokie or a Kirk in my life. I find it interesting I relate to the mom best. I like to be that mom friend my son can tell things to now that he's older. I was told I was very shy when I was younger but he is so smart & bubbly. Seriously though he talks so much I can't always pay attention & I stare into space. Loops, he often catches me when I do. We go yo family video sometimes & watch movies we rent. It's a very inexpensive place or we go to the library. Their selection isn't so big.
    I also listen to my son & his school issues when kids cause problems. I do my best to talk to teachers & principals & that gets a bit annoying. I want him to beasble to tell me things. He is not old enough for dating yet but says many of the kids in middle school claim to be dating even if it's against the rules. It gets hard sometimes being the parent friend because it has it's draw backs. I have to remind him not to tell me how to do things or I have to tell him no. But when we chit chat sometimes we come up with crazy stuff & just laugh a lot. The show taught me that being a parent is fun & difficult at the same time.
    What else did I learn: I am not like Rory because she ius insanely smart, but i do have a passion for books. Also, if I try I can do most anything. Talking a lot can be really fun. Dating has it's ups & downs. Dinners look like a lot of fun. Everyone's life is different. Some people have interesting personalities while others are strange & you just can't figure them out. Certain people can be over bearing but still love you all the same.
    As I get older I just wonder what we'd agree on or argue about or talk about. Would it be traditional parenting or would there be a friendship there? That wraps this one up, a bit longer letter this time I think.

-Wendy

Dear mom #2

Hi,    In this letter I thought I would tell you about some of my friends. It's sad that you don't get to know them. I am still friends with Amanda from child hood. We reconnected on face book. She is a nurse now & a wife & has a few kids. We don't get to see each other in person but from what I can tell she is doing well. She says she remembers when you would take us to the store & burger king. We'd buy cheap little braclettes & things. There are a few others from elementary school on my friends list that I keep in touch with too. Facebook was a great way for some closure because apparently not everyone knew that your passing was why I moved.

   Well on to the details of who I know now. These are in no particular order.

  I will start with Ashley Taylor. She is one long time friend. We went to schhol together at Thomas Jefferson Private school, (TJIDS) We met I'm sixth grade. Being young kids we did not always get along but for the most part we had sleep overs & played video games. We did all sorts of things like that, such as go to the family Y & go swimming. She went to a lot of my birthday parties.   She is a pharmacists which is pretty cool. She was always very smart. She is now going to be my maid of honor at my wedding!!! She loves to run which I am not a fan of that. I am a bit on the lazy side.

Then there is Samantha Kast. She has an interesting brain cause of her sense of humor. I knew her right after high school. She's a bit younger than I am but sometimes I forget that. She has been through a lot, but I admire her courage & I hope she realizes how much she has. Her sense of humor will get her through a lot in this life. Sometimes when things get tough she reminds me it's great to laugh. I have often helped her with her kids & one of them is like a nephew to me. She will be in my wedding too!!!

I have another friend I know & she used to live her in Florissant. She moved to California. She goesby the nickname Boris & her real name is Leila. When she lived here she'd trust me to watch her three kids with Caleb. Besides with Samantha's I'd been in charge of sleep over a with hers. She is a very inteligant person. Sometimes she & I debate on worldly topics. I don't always agree with her views nor she with mine but neither one of us are afraid to say it. Sometimes there are people out there that drive you crazy & agree with everything. But I know she doesn't cause she wants to challenge me. It's great to be able to agree to disagree even if it gets a tad fruastraiting. I mean that in a good way!!!

Then there is a really new friend, Kinsey Nurnberger. Her heart is genuinely after the Lord's ways. She is just a young, & bright spirit. My fiancée is friends with her husband & they make a great team. I can't wait till I can say I've known her for several years. She's small like me & that's awesome cause sometimes my neck gets sore looking up at tall people. She's a ballerina & I find that amazing. Because like with running I don't have the energy for it. She is in my wedding too!!

One more, Priscilla Lay. She & I have so much that's opposite about us it's a wonder we are friends!! Her tattoos are incredible. Her spirit is just so care free & has carried her far in her life. I truly admire her for giving her daughter for adoption & deciding to raise her next one. I hope that wasn't saying too much. She has such a radiant smile & it's just contagious. I really think you would find her stories interesting. I don't have tatoos but I admire people that do. I can tell she wants to be a great mom. I just hope her desires bring her lots of inner peace. She is a brides maid too!!!

I realized most of these friends are in my wedding but that's besides the point. Even though you are gone & died when I was very young I still choose to live. Along the way I had lots of struggles to get where I am today. I wish you could know these woman that I have been blessed to have in my life. Plus I wish you could've known Caleb. I said that last time though. These are some thoughts I just wanted to share.     -Wendy Lovelace